My Life as a Dad

Picture this: a stream of flowing water.

You got it.

That’s my life. And I love it.

It’s not because it never changes. It does. I’m always on my feet.

It’s not that it is continuous in any particular way. Sometimes it feels dried up.

My mind is definitely at ease at this stage. Things are slowly starting to make more sense.

 

I’m happy.

 

That’s what the stream represents to me. Those problems that used to exist have been passed by.

The main events that stir up struggle are found at the bank.

They don’t bother me like they used to. I am at a place of contentment now.

 

Promise me you’ll never leave

 As a dad, I get faced with this question a lot. Even if they don’t say it. It’s just there in their faces.

It’s nice to be appreciated. To be loved. Your kids love you unconditionally. So go give them a hug.

Be around when you can. If your not there, or you can’t be, just find ways to let them know you are with them. There are few ways to show them:

  1. Teach them how to play. Play with them as much as you can. This is #1 on the list for a reason.
  2. Play an instrument in front of them (learn one if you haven’t).
  3. Talk to them about nothing. It shows they are important
  4. The point is to show you really care when you are there. Try to be fully present as much as possible.

It is not always possible for us to be fully there. Make that as much a priority as possible. These points will give them the right things to do or think about doing with Dad if your not there.

 

A Creek

 

I remember walking by creeks a lot as a kid. It makes me think of my dad because we did outside stuff together. He would walk with us and help us build forts.

I’ve got 2 toddlers , and an infant. It goes girl, boy, boy. They are great. I can’t wait to see how they turn out.

We will do outside stuff whenever we can.

Because memories are the most important thing. It is how we remember our parents when they aren’t around.

 

Mistakes

 I have already made tons of mistakes as a parent. You know what? That’s ok. It’s not going to scar them for ever.

It may seem like a big deal at the time. Most likely it isn’t.

I want to be the dad that is always nice. It just doesn’t work that way. I will yell at them when you even question it yourself. But in the end, it is what was needed.

You will know. Don’t be afraid to discipline your kids. They will thank you for it later.

Don’t be afraid to discipline yourself. Teach yourself what is right and wrong as a parent. Trial and error will be your best friend.

 

Set up your environment

 Make your environment fit your needs. That will trickle down to your kids needs too.

Try your best to be organized. If not, you did your best.

We always clean up, or do a GI party, when the house starts to look like Chernobyl.

 

Pretty much any counter cleaner you can think of, I’ve tried.

 

Be open

 

I mean this in the most simplistic way in every aspect of your life. As a dad, you just don’t know what is going to happen. Don’t be afraid.

After 4 years of marriage I still love the surprises.

 

Nothing ever turns out perfectly

That’s what you learn.

Life isn’t about being perfect, neither is being a dad.

 

If you didn’t know that before, you know that now.

 

Maybe that’s part of the whole point.

 

The stream image is like that. So is parenting. It doesn’t understand how it has to get where its going. It just has to keep moving.

 

 

 

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4 Responses to My Life as a Dad

  1. Rosalyn O. says:

    This was beautiful to read. I had relaxing music playing in the background (Communion by Nadama & Shastro), and with that river image it felt like it went together, haha. What a lovely thing to write.

  2. Lydia says:

    That was eye-opening to read. There is so much in there that should just be common sense but unfortunately that seems to be lacking so much these days. Children don’t need material things what they need is a parent who has time for them.

    • Dustin says:

      That’s exactly how I feel. I feel like the things that we will remember, or matter in the long run is being around. Time together is the most invaluable thing.

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